Another Nightmare
After doing my nightly devotions, I set aside my bible, turned off the lights and let my pillow cushion of head. My eyelids lolled and I was asleep in a minute. Shortly after, they fluttered open again and sunlight streamed through my window. I was in Minnesota, in my old bedroom.
I wiped the crust from the corners of my eyes as I sat up.
“What time is it?” I stifled a yawn, looking for the cheap digital alarm clock that normally sat atop my nightstand.
“Daniel!” a voice shouted from the living room.
“Mom?” I stuttered leaping from my bed. Poking my head into the hallway in utter bewilderment. “Mom, is that you?”
“Hurry up Daniel, I have to go!” she said, hurriedly looking through the closet by the front door.
“Mom?”
“What?” she said, glaring at me through her rectangular frames.
“You’re dead,” I said pointedly
“What are you talking about?”
“You died a year ago. Pancreatic cancer? Don’t you remember—”
“I don’t have time for this. Either get dressed and get down here, or I’m leaving without you.”
“Leaving? Where are you—”
“Get dressed!” She said.
“Okay,” I stuttered, darting back in to my room, throwing on a pair of dirty jeans and a white t-shirt I found in a dusty corner. From below, I heard the front door jarred open and then slam with a muffled “thunk,” followed by the soft “whoosh” of the screen door.
“Mom?” I said rushing down the stairs, zipping up my pants. The living room was empty. I checked the kitchen. “Mom,” I said, the panic rising in my voice, “are you still here?” No answer.
I ran to the front door and burst through it, running into the yard. My mom was sitting in the driver’s seat of a car that was peeling out of the driveway.
“Wait,” I bounded down the long cement stairs. “Mom, I’m ready to go! Don’t leave without me!”
The screeching wheels and the revving engine drowned out my cries. She hit the acceleration pedal and gravel flew from the back tires in to my face as she sped down the hill. My sneakers pounded after her, my breath billowing like a smokestack in the chill, autumn air.
Please, wait! Take me with you!” I cried, chasing after her until she was a mere speck at the end of the street, until that too winked out of view down a steep hill.
I was left alone in the middle of the street doubled over; wheezing and gasping for air as a sharp pain stabbed my side.
My heart thudded in my chest as my eyes sprang open. Reaching from my top bunk to the shelf of my closet where my alarm clock was perched, I grabbed it with trembling hands: 3:15 a.m.
Tuesday, November 21, 2006
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Hold your horses, I haven't even read your previous post yet. Have a happy Thanksgiving! I'll read your new stuff as soon as the t-day crowd dies down from sharing the computer.
I like your writings, I end up feeling depressed after I read them, though.
Sorry. Sort of a hazard of reading my material. It sort of gets better at the end, but really, how happy can a mom dying be?
Wow, those are some intense dreams. I've had just a few dreams about my dead brother, but no real substance. I'm curious, would you prefer these difficult dreams to no dreams at all with your mother in them? I've had the same response of "Hey, you can't be in this dream, you're dead..." but then there's this crazy curiosity that makes me want the dream to never end. How is it for you?
Well, I never have "good dreams" with my mom. They're always very Freudian and her memory is elusive.
I had one dream where it was simply, her telling my dad, "I'm cheating on you," and I woke up saying, "Mom, why?" sobbing hysterically. Another dream, I was walking along the ridge of a hill at night dressed in tattered jeans and a t-shirt. Along the way to this church (a huge auditorium with my mother's casket inside), I met my mother on the road. She looked at me disdainfully and said, "Where do you think you're going dressed like that? I angrily shot back. "To YOUR FUNERAL! You're dead." She dropped her head as if she was ashamed, and I woke up.
These dreams always carry a sense of shame or loss. She's always leaving, or in a place I cannot reach her. She's criticizing me or spilling her darkest secrets so glibly as if they didn’t matter; as if she didn’t care. Since she’s been gone, I believe I’ve had one or two dreams that she’s been in that I didn’t wake up crying.
And to answer your question…would I rather avoid these dreams all together? Six years is a long time. Sometimes, I miss her voice. Her laugh. Her boxy glasses. Just tonight, I was hit with a “Your mom” joke that almost reduced me to tears. Seeing her in nightmares is better than a complete lack of presence at all.
Besides, as odd as it may sound, I live for my nightmares. They are vivid, and fill me with such intense emotions. I remember stories, characters: everything. So yes, seeing her cause me pain, is better than being without her altogether.
I agree that reading about a dying mom is not happy. It is harder for me to read about your experiences and feel the same freedom that other readers may experience, who have similiar experiences to you. Plus, I'm not getting the full story I'm getting just the pieces you publish so I'm sure that the ebb and flow of your writings will provoke more feelings than gloomy ones. With my Mom having the mental disease that she has I feel that I can certainly relate to some of the feelings you have described, but she is still around (though it often hurts to see her when she's sick). In the end I don't know that relating to your experiences is the goal of your book though. I'll keep reading what you post and see where it takes me.
Pete,
There will be better times coming soon. Initially, I was going to hold off on the happier memories and times with my mother until the second portion of the book. After I talked with one of my friends, he advised me to mix those in now, rather than later. By doing this, it will show the reader WHY my mother's behavior was so difficult to deal with. Why her absences were unbearables. Why I chose to hate her for a while, rather than love, because the first option was the easiest for me.
In college, and writing about these times now for this book, it's hard for me to WRITE how I felt. It's difficult to show the inner turmoil I experience. How do you love someone who caused you so much pain? That's one of the larger questions I wish to convey in the book.
I meant to comment on this way back when yiou first posted this. Actually, I did comment but it was one of those days when blogspot was not letting me post a comment on anyone's blog. My Bryan died close to nine years ago and I have yet to dream about him. Others tell me about the dreams they get to have about him, but if I do, I don't remember them. After reading about your dreams I am not sure I would enjoy negative ones...nightmares. Interesting though, as a child I had nightmares of falling and feeling helpless because a car was coming and I could not get up. When the car reached me the tire would turn into a big innertube and be ok rolling over me. When I became a mom the nightmare changed to my children falling and I could not run fast enough to save them...but the tire turned into an innertube. Sure wish the real life accident Bryan had would have turned out that way!!!!!
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